NoFap hard mode, also known as the Monk mode, is a practice of abstaining from all sorts of ejaculation. It is exactly similar to Semen Retention. In this mode, you have to completely give up all sorts of ejaculations whether that be sex, masturbation or orgasm. Not only you have to abstain from ejaculation but you also have to completely give up porn.
What are the rules for NoFap Hard Mode?
There are some rules to be followed if you want to gain the benefits of NoFap hard mode.
The rules are as follows:
No peeking at any kind of erotic images
No Masturbatio(even without porn)
Have to follow all the above rules for at least 90 days.
NoFap hard mode is not made for everyone. And whether or not to go with hard mode, completely depends upon you and your addiction level.
I would recommend the hard mode to someone who is just starting out and is seriously addicted to porn or sex. The person who can’t carry out simple daily tasks without being distracted by the thought of sex should definitely take this mode.
It will help you build a foundation that is needed for a porn-free life. And if you are really serious about NoFap and it’s benefits, then you must try the hard mode as you can gain all the benefits 10 times faster.
Plus, it speeds up your recovery process since you completely abstain from sexual stimulations.
You can ask yourself questions like:
Is porn or sex stopping me from achieving my life goal?
Have I accomplished my goals?
Do I even have goals?
Is sex everything I need in life?
If the above questions made you think a lot, then you might have to try the hard mode.
How long should I do NoFap hard mode?
It completely depends on you. I recommend it doing at least 90 days and then continue with the easy mode.
You can have sex if you want after 90 days because it has some health and mental benefits. The main idea behind NoFap hard mode is not to completely give up sex for the entire life but to break the addiction associated with it.
Doing hard mode even for 90 days will build a strong foundation that is needed for a porn-free life and will speed up your recovery.
Sexual energy is one of the greatest forms of energy. Everything in life is about sex from building wealth to gaining status. And most of the things in life are motivated by the desire to have sexual power.
But this doesn’t mean that you should do sex all the time. In fact, that’s going to waste all your sexual energy and not going to satisfy you in any way.
No matter how much you do, it’s not going to be enough at any point. Every time you’ll feel a need to do more. And this cycle never ends.
That’s why you need to stop wasting your sexual energy through physical expressions and channel it for achieving your goals.
So if you ever felt the lack of will power, there’s a good chance that your sexual energy is leaking out via too much of sex, masturbation or orgasm.
In the next section, I will be sharing with you guys how to stop wasting that sexual energy and start channeling it in the right direction.
It’s basically a software that completely blocks all porn sites and makes you accountable to someone. You can read more about it in this detailed review.
2. Change your environment
The environment around you plays an important role in your relapse. If you are along at home, you’re more likely to watch porn and relapse.
So make sure you don’t stay alone in your room or house for the first 30 days. You can do that by socializing yourself or simply going out for a walk.
Another thing you want to do is to make some changes in the environment around you. So, like move your computer to a different location where you can’t watch porn. Make your room less isolated by opening the windows, doors and putting some more lights.
You can stick some motivation posters on the wall. You can also change your routine to prevent the addiction loop.
The blocking system mentioned above with proper changes in the environment around you will definitely help you reach 90+ days on hard mode.
Meditation is a great habitual process of training your mind to focus and redirect your thoughts towards a positive outlet. This helps your brain heal faster from the damage caused by porn.
Meditation makes me happy, focused, less depressed and now I don’t feel any need of watching porn naturally.
This helped me reach 130+ days on NoFap hard mode.
I know, it’s difficult to meditate at first. But it’s worth learning and doing.
Phase 2(30-60 days)
If you made to this phase, you are doing pretty good. Most of the people don’t even reach day 10 on hard mode. But if you follow all the strategies mentioned above, you should be able to reach this phase and furthermore.
Now the chances of relapsing in this phase in less, but still don’t take it granted. I have seen hundreds of people relapsing during this phase too.
Mainly because they don’t have any purpose in life. They just fap!
“We’re here to put a dent in the universe. Otherwise, why else even be here?” — Steve Jobs
So I’ll quickly share with you guys some strategies and tips to tackle this phase.
1. Find your life’s purpose
Porn addiction is a sign that you are distracted from your life’s purpose. And it’s important to find the purpose of life because if you not, you’ll struggle to get out of your porn addiction and will relapse soon.
You need to be clear and precise about your life’s purpose so that you have a reason to move away from porn.
How to Find and be Clear about the purpose of your life?
Step 1: Identify your purpose. Just think about the things which you love doing and can be turned into a career.
Step 2: Write down that goal on a piece of paper. Be clear while writing. For instance, if your goal is to make a lot of money in life, describe how much money you actually want. This is just an example but your goal can be anything.
Step 3: Now write down a precise plan to achieve that desired purpose and when you want to achieve it.
Step 4: Read what you wrote on that piece of paper aloud each day before you go to the bed in the, and when you wake up in the morning.
These steps are mentioned in Think and Grow Rich Book by Napoleon Hill in a very in-depth manner. I highly recommend this book if you want to read about wealth creation and sexual transmutation.
If you honestly want to quit porn and reach 90+ days on hard mode, you must find a new hobby. A new hobby can be replaced with your old bad habit to keep yourself engage while also giving you the natural dopamine rewards.
You know yourself & your hobbies better than anyone else. Just think about the things that you love to do and at the same time make you a better person.
Identify your hobby and stick with it. This will prevent you from thinking of porn and eventually will avoid relapses.
For instance, you can start going to the gym, start running, painting, reading books, eating food, going out for a movie or you can start your own business and pretty much anything.
There are thousands of hobbies out there and you can pick anyone unless it’s good. Just keep yourself engaged in that hobby to prevent relapsing.
Phase 3(60-90 days)
This is the last phase of your 90 days journey. This will be the easiest phase and you’ll not have too many troubles. But still, you need to take one last action in this phase.
1. Socialize yourself
Socializing is the foundation on which human societies are based. Not only it decides your happiness, but also your existence.
Socializing keeps you away from all types of addictions, helps you stay happy, improves your mental health and more. That’s why you should go out and start socializing with people like your friends, family member, co-employee or anyone close to you.
And if you don’t have anyone with you, just go out and make new friends. Everyone likes to talk to new people and make friendships with them.
Places like GYM, marriages, parties, events, meetups are great to start with.
I used to be a really introverted person. I always hated going to parties, public gatherings, events, and functions. But this changed when I found a need to socialize myself during my recovery period.
Socializing naturally gave me all those dopamine rewards which I used to get only from porn. It felt nice!